Saturday, September 17, 2005

SUCCESS: S*U- Understanding

“Furious activity is no substitute for understanding.”- H.H. Williams

Although knowing where you want to go is a key element of success, knowing how to get there is another.

What does it take? Has anybody else blazed the trail? What resources are available to help you? What will it be when you accomplish the goal? Am I willing to learn and re-learn as I go?

I’ll explore these questions further as we explore the elements of success each Saturday.

Have a great Weekend!

Friday, September 16, 2005

Cellular Blues

I am one of the six people that still do not carry a cell phone. It’s not that I do not want one, I just don’t want to pay for one…continually, month after month. In fact, I believe the phone to be somewhat of an annoyance, so to pay for the privalege of people calling whenever they want just really…well, it doesn’t inspire me to run out, buy a phone and sign a contract to give my money away.

What really bothers me about cell phones is the belief that cell phones are mandatory now. How can you not have a cell phone?? Maybe it’s because I am not a social butterfly. Maybe it’s because I still like to have places to which I can say, “sorry, I didn’t have a phone”. Maybe it’s still a money thing, but I still feel complete without a cell phone on my hip or held to my ear.

The handless phone jacks are annoying as well. I don’t know how many times I have tried to figure out why the lady at the store is asking me what I want for dinner, only to notice the little wire hanging from her ear and across her shoulder. When I was little I was taught not to stare at the people talking to themselves on the streets. I guess that rule still applies but I am running out of places to stare!

The conversations are not just about what soup to get either! Sometimes the conversations are so personal, I get embarrassed to listen not that I have a choice but to listen. Why it is required to talk twice as loud into a cell phone then what you would do in normal conversation? Is there really any status to be won by announcing to the world that you have a cell phone and you use it?

Have you noticed that it is now OK to be late to meetings? If you call on the way and say you’ll be 15 minutes late, the rest of us sitting in the meeting waiting have to excuse you. You did call and let us know so it must be all right.

Driving with a cell phone continues to be an issue. I guess when you’re using a phone: turn indicators are no longer required, lane markers lines are optional, and sudden lane changes should be anticipated. It used to be that if you saw a car swerving all over the road, one would assume that they were DUI, now we just assume they got a call.

One day, I will have a cell phone- it’s ineveitable. My only hope is that my common courtesy and self respect stay intact.

Thursday, September 15, 2005

What's Truly Important?

Already this morning, I have had a discussion with someone who is a victim of someone stealing money out of her checking account. The total sum was for $150.00, but to this poor lady, that is devastating. It leaves her with about $17 until her next check next week. She was in tears and then dropped the "B" word- Bankruptcy.

I could tell by her reaction that this thought caused her embarrassment and a sense of utter failure. I know she has tried to move from her current situation by going to school, attempting "Avon" type efforts, and receiving counseling on how to fix her financial situation. She may not always make the best decision, but she always tries. So I feel for her when I see her start to break down and cry and really worry about the future and more importantly worry about money.

What a waste of life and time- worrying about money. Whether you have too much or too little- it just seems money is way too pervasive in our lives.

On our annual trip to visit grandma over Easter vacation, we always bring our croquet set. The kids like to take on their uncles and it is really the only time we play. My youngest son, out of the blue, hit his ball towards one of his uncles who had just become "poison". "What are you doing", was the obvious question asked.

"If I get out, I can go in the house and have a cookie".

This kid is not a quitter. He just still possesses that quality we all have as kids and somehow lose later on as adults: the ability to know what's important and what is not. Winning the game would be nice, the playing of it was better, and a cookie ranks them all!

I'll have to look it up, but someone once said "Worry is interest we pay on things that may or may not happen." Don't let worries, especially worries about things that are not that important, steal the joy of things that are more important to you.

Wednesday, September 14, 2005

Head Over Heels (Part 2)

(Continued from yesterday)

As the running back lumbered toward me and as I was fulfilling my obligation to close the gap between us by moving toward him, all the coaching and months of drills and practice were echoing over and over in my head. “Bend your knees. Get low. Power into the tackle”. Of course there was also the other voice in my head screaming, “Look at the size of that thing! Run Away!!!”
As the two of us were about to meet “officially”, I had a quick, but strong, shot of confidence and almost started saying, “I think I can. I think I…” and then POW!! Hope, confidence and all the hours of training could not compensate for the extra 95 pounds of running back.
Like a B.B. hitting a freight train, I went straight backwards and quickly noticed how I was seeing clouds instead of grass. At one point, my feet swooshed by as if running through the clouds. I was airborne, spinning head over heels, and slightly dazed.
Now nothing makes a big…sorry, huge running back happier then to run over the top of a vanquished opponent. This running back was to make no exception. And as I hit the ground and found myself on my back, I noticed the big boy again entering my space, this time exactly over me.
If one is upright and one extends one’s legs, there will be a penalty flag. It’s called tripping. If one is flat on their back and extends one’s legs straight up, it’s called a tackle. I stuck my legs straight up in the air and made the tackle. I agree, the style was not anything for the highlight reel, but it worked then and the two or three other times the two of us met later in the game.
My old football coach, Coach Hatch taught that it was the small things that mattered. But when you’re dealing with a big thing, a huge thing, bigger then you might be able to handle, I am sure Coach Hatch would advise, “Just do what you can”.
All dignity aside, of course.

Tuesday, September 13, 2005

Head Over Heels (part 1)

I was a whopping 145 pounds at the conclusion of my High School Junior year football season. Weight training was now to begin for the upcoming season and goals needed to be set. I figured I would need to be at least 160 pounds by the start of the next season to secure a starting position. I began to eat.

I ate everything that moved, and anything that didn’t. I took on a job at Hardee’s not only to earn money to afford double lunches at school, but also to clean up on extra food at work! For months, I ate and lifted weights. I would do anything if it had the promise of raising my weight to my goal.

Opening night, I had done everything I could and I tipped the scales at 150 pounds. I had only gained 5 pounds! My ambition had earned me the starting spot of defensive back on the varsity team, the 5 extra pounds would have to do.

Everything went fine for the first two games and then we played Granger High School. Granger high school ran a tough running game anchored by a huge 245 pound running back. 245 pounds! He outweighed me by almost 100 pounds! I was a defensive back, but with their style of running attack, there was a very good chance he and I would meet.

Meet we did. About half way through the first quarter, the big…no HUGE running back cleared the end of the line and started making his way into my territory. It was the two of us, one on one.

(continued tomorrow).

Monday, September 12, 2005

It is written...

I’ve never owned a chainsaw before, but with all the trees I have, it was inevitable: I would finally have to get one. It wasn’t brand new and I didn’t get one until it was given to me, but I now am an owner of a Poulan 18” “Wild Thing” chainsaw.

I first used my new saw last weekend cutting stump roots before pulling them. I would dig a bit and then start cutting the roots with the saw, occasionally and often hitting the dirt, rocks, etc. down under the tree. Apparently I thought chainsaws should be used as trenchers as well. I was incorrect and the saw became very dull very quickly. I ended up resorting back to chopping the roots out with an ax.

Since the blade was used, I decided to replace the chain and blades instead of trying to sharpen them. I got the new blades and having never changed chainsaw blades before, I actually sat down and started reading the instruction manual on the blades repair and maintenance.

Do not sharpen blades while engine is running”.

That was actually in the instruction manual!! Is there really someone out there that needs that explained to them??? I could just imagine the testimony in court, “It never said to turn the engine off before working on the blades”.

I’m not mad that there wasn’t a warning about using the saw as a trencher. That was my dumb! But who needs to be told to turn off a piece of equipment whose sole purpose is the cutting through and off of limbs before grabbing the blade?!!!?!!

Point: Take some responsibility for yourself.
Not just in chainsaw safety, but in all of your decisions and actions. Don’t think that just because someone hasn’t told you to do, or not to do, something doesn’t mean that you are free to do what you please.

Here’s to a new week!

Sunday, September 11, 2005

Sunday Scripture Choice

Deuteronomy 6: 4-7


Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD:

And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul and with all thy might.

And these words which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:

And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Saturday, September 10, 2005

SUCCESS: S- Steering


Saturday Morning and what are you going to do? Is it planned out?

Now before you go on and start believing I’m some kind of “anal-retentive, got to plan every minute” nut, hear me out.

When I mean plan- I just mean you have previously decided what today will be. So when it starts happening, you can relax and know it’s all part of the game plan. Let me give you some examples.

Do you like to sleep in on weekend mornings? Just know in your head then that weekend mornings are for sleeping. When you wake up at 9, 10, 11- it’s OK. You planned for it. Maybe you want the whole day to be spontaneous. My suggestion would be to have that part of the program. Decide ahead of time that you are not planning anything!

I, myself, wanted to sleep in to 6. (I know that sounds sick) write my blog spot and then I am off to Lowe’s to do my "manly" shopping before breakfast with the family. The rest of my day has an agenda as well, with some open spots to do whatever the family decides.

The important part is that I am in control and have decided ahead of time what I am going to do today. I will not be frustrated later because I didn’t get to my blog, or I slept in too late and now must fight the crowds at Lowe’s. I will be able to enjoy the second half of the day, which I have no idea what that might be.

Sometimes we get too fixed on the big goals- “what I want to be when I grow up”. Although that is important- the battle is really won on the smaller goals. What am I going to do today- or even planning out tomorrow. Make each day, even if a day of play and spontaneity, part of the bigger plan of your personal success.

Yogi Berra said, “If you don’t know where you’re going, you ain’t going to get there.”

Have a great weekend!

Friday, September 09, 2005

Football Coaches

Watching my Raiders get dismantled in the second half of last night's game as well as the start of football season throughout the nation's high schools and colleges, I am reminded of the days that I spent on the field and the lessons learned.

Football coaches are great! They just put everything into it and therefore some of the funniest things come out of there mouths. Most, however, are very specific in what they want no matter how absurd it may be.

On blocking: “I want the hole to be so big…I can drive a semi-truck through it.”

On defending a receiver: “Wherever your guy goes, you go. If he goes to buy a hotdog, you hand him his change”.

On winning: “If we score more points then they do, we’ll most likely win.”

Coach Hatch said something to us that has stuck with me. “All I ask from you is perfection. You give me that, and I’ll be happy.”

And we would try to give it to him. I swear I would do the same pattern over and over again, and they seemed to look the same to me, but he would see slight imperfections and would drill us over and over again until we could see them too…and correct them.

To Coach Hatch, it was the small things that made the difference and he would not settle for “close enough”. Do you?

Thursday, September 08, 2005

When to Say When

I actually did it! I made the right choice today. There are so many things happening at work today and I woke up early to get started. After showering, and dressing I was ready to make my way out of the house by 5 AM.

Before leaving, I always go in and kiss my wife, Marci, good-bye. I try not to wake her up too much, but enough that she remembers that I said good bye. I could tell she wasn't feeling good and I learned that she had been awake most of the night with a bad headache. I told her I would call her as soon as my training, that I was teaching, was over- sometime around noon. I could hear the "yeah, that helps a lot" in her voice.

I gathered my stuff and while walking out the door, I thought- "what priority did I just set?" Is my job more important then my family? Does anyone at work really care about training as much I care about my family? Does my work really expect me to sacrifice my family's needs for theirs? Do I?

I stopped and went back in to inform Marci that I was staying home and that she could relax and know she could get some rest. She of course tried to convince me that I shouldn't, but I insisted more strongly and I am staying. I'll call in later and take care of the business I can over the phone.

Lesson: Set your own priorities! Don't be irresponsible, as in don't loose your job and the ability to make a good life for you and yours over dumb things. Just know where your limits are. Everybody wants all of you all the time- but no one really expects it. They expect you to stay "when".

Today I said "when" and I am confident the consequences will be very manageable.